What do you do when your long-term relationship is ended by the other person? What do you do when you are looking for your next long-term relationship but all you find are people looking for serial superficial hook-ups?
Don’t take it personally. A friend recently wrote of her sour experience on a dating site, “If the least little thing bothers someone in on-line dating they can throw you away like trash.” In that case, the person has just self-identified as a jackass and has saved you precious time. Would you really want to be with someone that intolerant and unforgiving?
Don’t crawl under a rock, wounded and waiting for the other person to come back to you or come to you. Would you want to be involved with a weak, self-pitying person who can’t function on her or his own?
Live your best life, do the things you love to do that make you fully you, find new things you love to do, and trust that someone who values you will find you there, in your full, vibrant life.
Focus on yourself. This is your singlehood, your life, and your happiness.
As Mary Oliver writes in her poem, “The Summer Day,”
Tell me, what is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life?
What’s your answer?
Bliss out to Gloria Gaynor’s “I Will Survive” while you think about it.